October 9th, 2008
His fear instantly disappeared
Hi my friend:
Yesterday, I was asked by a client how he could get the
stressors in his life to go away. He said that he was
smart, talented, outgoing, hardworking and ambitious, but
that he would frequently get overwhelmed with all the
responsibilities and all the directions he was being pulled
in each day.
I told him that his request is an unreasonable one.
The stressors -- responsibilities -- will not go away, nor
Because to get rid of one, another one will probably, as
if by magic, replace it.
This is a good thing, because no responsibilities means
that you are either dead or a complete burden to others.
I told him to not wish them to be gone, but to give them
new labels and meanings instead. Because when nothing on
the outside can or should change, it is on the inside where
the only good can be done.
Many parts of your life are literally about jobs, tasks,
responsibilities... so when you can experience the joy
built into each one of them, instead of seeing them as your
curse, you will not feel any negative stress, even though
nothing on the outside of you has changed at all.
Our duties are the DOINGS of our lives.
Without them, there is no life at all.
Even play is filled with tasks and duties and rules. What
would our favorite games be without rules that all players
must adhere to.
I told him that he must change the meaning that he gives
to his chores in all areas of his life.
When he does this, what he calls stress will melt away.
He now calls them stressors...
So I told him to call them things he gets to do, vows,
promises or pledges.
Instantly he felt great.
He said they didn't seem scary any more.
That is the power of labels. That is why people will work
hard and long for a title even when no additional
compensation (or any compensation at all) goes with it.
Now, of course, his emotional change was in the moment.
And emotions can work quickly for you. But they can just
as quickly turn negative again when your lifelong patterns
get back in control...
And they WILL take over again even after profound
emotional breakthroughs occur.
Life-long conditioning is what put our long-time fears in
place. Conditioning over a lifetime is what makes us give
the meanings we put on things.
To one person, a sunset is the most beautiful thing in the
world, but to another it only means that a dreadful
tomorrow is that much closer.
Those viewpoints weren't developed overnight.
Everyone has fears due to unsupportive meanings and
So when I myself feel less than some task I have before
me, I now use 'Releasing Fear Of Failure Now!' to give me
strength. When I read the words, and affirm to myself
silently or out loud, I begin instantly to feel bigger,
more capable. Smarter, even though I didn't grow smarter
in seconds. Stronger, even though I am no stronger than I
was moments before.
And the challenge (responsibility) seems smaller somehow,
The thing to remember is that nothing has any meaning
except the meaning we give it.
And those meanings create emotions, which guide decisions.
To be free of fear and negative stress is to automatically
-- without having to think -- view what is in front of you
as a grain of sand that can be walked upon and passed by
without conscious effort.
Do that and your life will be a smooth, enjoyable flow, no
matter what "difficulty" or "deadline" you have in front of
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emotions relating to the things that frighten you and that
stop you from living fully and being as adventurous as you
once dreamed of being and still dream of being.
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